GOD’S PATTERN FOR CORRECT MOTHERING:

The Will of God – A Mighty Weapon

The will of God (God’s tool) can be used as a mighty weapon to wrestle over a child’s case. This awareness should inform your behaviour. You have seen how God treated that which is His own – killing every firstborn of Egypt while the first born of the children of Israel had a double portion.

God appears when something is His own. You saw what happened to Nebuchadnezzer by just drinking from a cup; Joseph in Egypt, Sarah with Abimelech; etc. God followed His cup to Babylon. See Daniel 5

If you have this awareness, you will tremble at how you deal with the children. Don’t ever try to put up actions that portray your possession of them. Parents with this understanding rise up against the devil with the will of God as a major weapon of rescue for the child in time of crises. You must be well established in this first point, so the even when the children are far away, it raises no panic. If God is the owner, He will take care of them. That revelation will give peace to your soul. Moses’ mother allowed the child on the Nile because of this revelation.

That is what God can do when you give back to Him what belongs to Him. Your reliance and security should not be in DAY CARE CENTRES. Walk in strong confidence of the revelation of His will and purpose. Sarah was observant (over Isaac) and quickly took charge she could see when Ishmael mocked Isaac. She knew the will of God concerning Isaac. She lifted up this purpose. This was what preserved Isaac lest he would have been killed as Cain did Abel.

The initial stage of a child’s life is with the mother-up till about 5-7years before he/she begins to follow father around. You need not to be careless at this period.

God gave instructions to Manoah’s wife. She was not to be given to passion (ruled by fleshy lust) as a mother if the right thing must happen to her child ‘he that liveth in pleasure is death while she lives’. If you are quarrelsome, nagging etc, note that your character is built (automatically) into the fabric of your child’s foundation.

Seeing his father beat his mother, forms a child’s basic character that will rule him through life. If your child must not tell lies at 7, you’ve got to deal with it at age 1 or 2.

Your own lifestyle is very important in the life of your growing child; it will become a spirit in the child’s spirit. Manoah’s wife was asked not to eat any unclean thing; that means she should not take any doctrine that is not sound. That means you must seek to know the truths of God’s Word ‘read it yourself’; open yourself to teachings instead of going around for old wives fables that pollute the undiluted word of God.

When children are born, they can hear. Speak the Word to them (let them respond to prophecy like John the Baptist from the womb). The Word unspoken (unread) is intact. It is the release of these Words through confession that can birth purpose in the child. Speak the word of God to your children so as to release God’s power and purpose in them.

God bless you.

GOD’S PATTERN FOR CORRECT MOTHERING:

This passage above highlights the active participation of God with men in producing children- according to His purpose. Mothering/Parenting is a shared responsibility between God and man. If you understand this, and are faithful, God Himself is faithful.

Successful mothering starts from that participatory understanding. God is the one that forms and separate babies from the womb-having plans for them before they come - Jer 1:5 This understanding gives you an advantage; seeing you and God at work to cause His purpose to manifest on the earth.  People of this understanding enjoy peculiar involvement of God in their affairs over their children. There is no child that God gives to family without a defined purpose attached.

It’s a pity today that most parents stumble on children. I emphasize that one can still have children that God did not give to one (like Ishmael) –because God did not speak anything concerning his destiny. When you have no idea of God’s purpose, you have no weapon in the day of battle (crises).

In this passage, God started with a purpose demanding the commitment of the parents. Manoah’s wife confided in her husband on what she received.  Correct mothering can only be done in active cooperation with correct fathering – she discussed with her husband, what the angel told her.

Most women see the child as their own- considering her agony in the labour room; and at some times poison the child against the father. A woman does not have all it takes to raise a child. The child will lack many things- that only fatherhood can supply. There is a place of fathering that makes mothering show. When you fence them from that fathering influence, the gap will be there.

Notice that Manoah prayed that God should come and teach them how to raise the child-the child to be born. This is the prayer every mother ought to be praying before child bearing not just going around the market in search of dresses that the baby will wear.

God did not give you children to start raising them the way you know – your mother’s way or the way of the people around you. Husband and wife are to team up to raise the children under God.

Something is wrong if the father is pulling up and the mother is pulling down. There must be a harmonization of principles, understanding, etc. the two agreeing together in raising the children. They (Manoah and the wife) submitted their background fears (known and unknown) and limitations to what God had to say-seeking to be led in spite of what they knew. If you open your spirit to the Lord, He will lead you and show you what to do.

You must acknowledge and submit ownership of the child to the Lord (Ps. 127). The child belongs to God. He expects you to take custody of him while you consistently seek counsel from Him as the Owner. Many parents want to raise the child for themselves and not for the Lord. You must always seek the face of the Lord for what God desires for the child.

May the Lord depend on you.