BREAKING FORTH INTO DESTINY

 There is greatness in your future and in your destiny. As a woman there are so many aspects to your life that if care is not taken you may end up focusing majorly on things which have little or no eternal reward, while your assignments in life and destiny remain unfulfilled.

God in His mercies prepares you, trains you and equips you so that you can break forth into His divine purpose for your life. BUT, your outcome is determined not just by the training you are put through but the training you accept.

God has a purpose for your life, but He needs your co-operation to fulfill it. There is something good in you, and at the appropriate time it will break forth, as you align your life with God's process. Remember it is the process that births the product.

Here are some points that will enable you break forth into your destiny.

1. Proper Church relationships (Ps. 92:12-15)

Settle down in a bible believing church you are led of God. You can't grow as a child of God if you keep moving from one church to another. Pray about the church God wants you to be a part of and settle there.

Attend church services and programmes regularly. Your destiny is moulded by the truth of God's word you hear regularly (Rom. 10:17, Ps. 119:9.)

Don't rebel against laid down structures in the church, but rather adjust your life to them. They will mould you for destiny assignment. For example in this church (Dream Centre of the Life Oasis Int'l church) no matter who you are, when you start coming to church you have to go through the believers' class.

2. Correct Mentoring

A mentor is a coach who trains you for your destiny. He is not just a teacher, but a father.

Correct mentoring trains you for your destiny.

Your mentor is not to praise you, he is sent to raise you and correct your life.

You don't choose your mentor, God chooses the person for you.

   For example:

Esther and Mordecai - Esther 2:7

Paul and Ananias   - Acts 9:10-20

Jesus and His disciples - John 1:37 -41.

Don't get familiar with your mentor; don't rebel against him.

Let him father you. Learn to listen when you are with him.

Serve your mentor, honour him. It is the anointing you serve that rubs off on you. 

3. Go through the divine process

The destination God has in mind for you determines the process He takes you through. God calls you as a person; He has His plans for you, and introduces you to the process.

David went through the process, and at his place of manifestation he could bring down the head of Goliath.  

4. Go through the training

In any establishment, when a new worker is employed, he is trained so that he'll be able to function effectively. So also in the kingdom, the training you subject yourself to helps you function effectively in your place of destiny. Training makes a demand on you, especially on your time. It stretches you and brings the best out of you. No matter the gift in you, if you are not properly coached you are a disaster going somewhere to happen. A coach tells you what to do and what not to do and you become better in the area of your grace.

5. Respond positively to corrections

God wants you to be beautiful anywhere He places you. He wants His glory to be seen in and through you. If you don't respond to corrections this can never happen.

God corrects you through the pages of the scriptures, (2Tim. 3:16-17), He speaks to you as you learn to listen to the Holy Ghost. He connects you through your mentor, and other people who are authority figures in your life - for a woman her husband, for a single lady, her parents, etc.

As God corrects you and you respond positively, He gets you to your place of greatness in life.

6. Embrace Divine Assignments

There is hardly any Christian that is doing valiant exploits in the kingdom of God who did not start by embracing divine assignments. This is God's pattern for bringing you into your own destiny.

David kept his father's sheep while his brothers were parading as 'kings-to-be,' Saul went looking for his father's lost asses and in the process they entered their destiny as ordained of God. God has not changed; Elisha served his way into the experience of the double portion. What about you? Don't fantasize about your destiny, be faithful in the little that God commits into your hand and watch your God-given destiny manifest.

7.  Be faithful at your present duty post.

God anoints faithfulness. David was faithful in keeping his father's sheep. He fought the lion and a bear, then he went ahead to confront and kill Goliath. Elisha also was faithful in pouring water on the hands of Elijah, and the result? A double portion of the anointing.

When you are committed and faithful in the little God has committed into your hands then He can commit greater things to you. Your present assignment may just be a gateway to the major destiny God has for you. Discover it (if you have not) and do it faithfully.

8. Submission to your husband

As a woman, for you to break forth into your God-given destiny, the role of submission to your husband cannot be over-emphasized. Don't despise your husband; whatever you think God has told you to do, discuss with him, submit your visions under his own and you will see God move on your behalf. 

9. Exert yourself

Don't spare yourself. Don't put your career above your calling. Exert yourself and make yourself available to do the assignment of your calling according to God's requirement and stretch yourself to balance up in other areas as well.

Don't give career or domestic excuses to disobey God in your calling. Phil.4:13- You can do all things through Christ- your calling, your career and your family

In conclusion, God has a glorious future in mind for you, but He requires that you work towards this future. Study the word of God on a daily basis, commit your future to God in prayers, stabilize yourself in the Local Church, submit yourself to God-given authority figures in your life, embrace present assignments joyfully and do it faithfully, and it shall be well with you in Jesus' name.

GOD’S PATTERN FOR CORRECT PARENTING (MOTHERING)

GOD’S PATTERN FOR CORRECT PARENTING (MOTHERING)

TEXT: Judges 13.

This passage highlights the active participation of God with men in producing children according to His purpose.

Mothering/ parenting is a shared responsibility between God and man. You should understand this, and be faithful, because God Himself is faithful.

Successful mothering starts from that participatory understanding. God is the One that forms and separate babies from the womb- having plans for them before they came. Jer.1:5-“Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.”

This understanding gives you an advantage- seeing you and God at work to cause His purpose to manifest on the earth. People of this understanding enjoy peculiar involvement of God in their affairs over their children. There is no child that God gives to a family without a definite purpose attached.

It’s a pity today that most parents stumble on children. I emphasize that one can still have children that God did not give to one (like Ishmael) - because God did not speak anything concerning his destiny. When you have no idea of God’s purpose, you have no weapon in the day of battle (crises).

In this passage, God started with a purpose-demanding the commitment of the parents. Manoah’s wife confided in her husband on what she received.

Correct mothering can only be done in active cooperation with correct fathering- she discussed with her husband, what the angel told her.

Most women see the child as their own- considering her agony in the labour room; and at some times poison the child against the father. A woman does not have all it takes to raise a child. The child will lack many things- that only fatherhood can supply. There is a place of fathering that makes mothering show. When you fence them from that fathering influence, the gap will be there.

Notice that Manoah prayed that God should come and teach them how to raise the child- the child to be born. This is the prayer every mother ought to be praying before child bearing, not just going around the market in search of dresses that the baby will wear. God did not give you children to start raising them the way you know- your mother’s way or the way of the people around you.

Husband and wife are to team up to raise the children under God.

Something is wrong if the father is pulling up and the mother is pulling down. There must be a harmonization of principles, understanding etc- the two agreeing together in raising the children. They (Manoah and the wife) submitted their background fears (known and unknown) and limitations to what God has to say- seeking to be led in spite of what they knew. If you open your spirit to the Lord, He will lead you and show you what to do.

You must acknowledge and submit ownership of the child to the Lord. (Ps.127). The child belongs to God. He expects you to take custody of him while you consistently seek counsel from Him as the Owner. Many parents want to raise the child for themselves and not for the Lord. You must always seek the face of the Lord for what He desires for the child.

Remain Blessed.

THE EXCEPTIONAL WIFE IS THE RESPONSIBLE WIFE

THE EXCEPTIONAL WIFE IS THE RESPONSIBLE WIFE

Proverbs 31:10-31

Introduction

People expect you to have weakness and come short in some areas, which makes you human, but when you excel where you are expected to fail then you become exceptional. When you produce result where people understand you should have no result, you are rated exceptional.

When you take advantage of God’s power, wisdom and mercy in those areas where you have lack in your nature, personality and temperament, you become an exceptional individual.

You can be an exceptional wife when you refuse to complain about what normal people complain about, when you solve problems that others leave for others, when you assume responsibilities where others push it on another.

What are your present complaints, dislikes and things that put you off concerning your home, to be precise – your husband? Do you know you can do something about it? Let’s have 3 examples.

How do you feel when your husband holds you responsible for something you feel you both or even ‘he’ alone should bear the brunt?

Do you feel – he’s asking for too much from you?

Do you feel he’s shacking his responsibilities?

Do you feel he’s unfair?

The key is hold yourself responsible before anyone does, and they won’t need trying to assume responsibilities where it is not needed, you only face embarrassment and pain, in the setting where they tell you in words or action, you are not needed, but where you are needed (though someone’s desire may not want you) you have no need to be afraid or hold anything back.

Assume responsibilities over these things in your husband’s life and your marriage will appreciate.

1. His life, future, dreams and destiny. Take it as if “if he fails, then you fail”. It means you’ll do anything right and Godly to see him lifted, improve, increase, make it. (Ascertain these two issues).

- He has a dream, future and destiny – that he is aware of.

- That the origin of it is God.

- Proper church/kingdom life and connections that God can use to get him ready for a higher place in the world.

If these two points are not in place, help him to connect to where he’ll get to know – church, Pastor!

The couple will live a vain life if the head is merely existing – living to eat, have no cause they are committed to.

2. What are the things your husband complain about you?

What areas of your operations has he shown displeasure?

Assume responsibilities to get rid of such, guess what? It makes his own life smoother! 1Cor. 11:9.

(You may feel what about those things I have complained about? That will come later, after you have done  your part as a seed, your harvest includes that) – John 12:24.

3. What areas of lack or need – physically have you noticed in his life? e.g. makes a lot of promise and forget it, too tied in the night to do important things e.t.c.

- Do you have ability in that area?

If yes, use it for him, lavish it on him.

If no, can you develop yourself in that area, solely for the purpose of helping him to succeed? Start now.

May the Lord depend on you.