BREAKING FORTH INTO DESTINY

 There is greatness in your future and in your destiny. As a woman there are so many aspects to your life that if care is not taken you may end up focusing majorly on things which have little or no eternal reward, while your assignments in life and destiny remain unfulfilled.

God in His mercies prepares you, trains you and equips you so that you can break forth into His divine purpose for your life. BUT, your outcome is determined not just by the training you are put through but the training you accept.

God has a purpose for your life, but He needs your co-operation to fulfill it. There is something good in you, and at the appropriate time it will break forth, as you align your life with God's process. Remember it is the process that births the product.

Here are some points that will enable you break forth into your destiny.

1. Proper Church relationships (Ps. 92:12-15)

Settle down in a bible believing church you are led of God. You can't grow as a child of God if you keep moving from one church to another. Pray about the church God wants you to be a part of and settle there.

Attend church services and programmes regularly. Your destiny is moulded by the truth of God's word you hear regularly (Rom. 10:17, Ps. 119:9.)

Don't rebel against laid down structures in the church, but rather adjust your life to them. They will mould you for destiny assignment. For example in this church (Dream Centre of the Life Oasis Int'l church) no matter who you are, when you start coming to church you have to go through the believers' class.

2. Correct Mentoring

A mentor is a coach who trains you for your destiny. He is not just a teacher, but a father.

Correct mentoring trains you for your destiny.

Your mentor is not to praise you, he is sent to raise you and correct your life.

You don't choose your mentor, God chooses the person for you.

   For example:

Esther and Mordecai - Esther 2:7

Paul and Ananias   - Acts 9:10-20

Jesus and His disciples - John 1:37 -41.

Don't get familiar with your mentor; don't rebel against him.

Let him father you. Learn to listen when you are with him.

Serve your mentor, honour him. It is the anointing you serve that rubs off on you. 

3. Go through the divine process

The destination God has in mind for you determines the process He takes you through. God calls you as a person; He has His plans for you, and introduces you to the process.

David went through the process, and at his place of manifestation he could bring down the head of Goliath.  

4. Go through the training

In any establishment, when a new worker is employed, he is trained so that he'll be able to function effectively. So also in the kingdom, the training you subject yourself to helps you function effectively in your place of destiny. Training makes a demand on you, especially on your time. It stretches you and brings the best out of you. No matter the gift in you, if you are not properly coached you are a disaster going somewhere to happen. A coach tells you what to do and what not to do and you become better in the area of your grace.

5. Respond positively to corrections

God wants you to be beautiful anywhere He places you. He wants His glory to be seen in and through you. If you don't respond to corrections this can never happen.

God corrects you through the pages of the scriptures, (2Tim. 3:16-17), He speaks to you as you learn to listen to the Holy Ghost. He connects you through your mentor, and other people who are authority figures in your life - for a woman her husband, for a single lady, her parents, etc.

As God corrects you and you respond positively, He gets you to your place of greatness in life.

6. Embrace Divine Assignments

There is hardly any Christian that is doing valiant exploits in the kingdom of God who did not start by embracing divine assignments. This is God's pattern for bringing you into your own destiny.

David kept his father's sheep while his brothers were parading as 'kings-to-be,' Saul went looking for his father's lost asses and in the process they entered their destiny as ordained of God. God has not changed; Elisha served his way into the experience of the double portion. What about you? Don't fantasize about your destiny, be faithful in the little that God commits into your hand and watch your God-given destiny manifest.

7.  Be faithful at your present duty post.

God anoints faithfulness. David was faithful in keeping his father's sheep. He fought the lion and a bear, then he went ahead to confront and kill Goliath. Elisha also was faithful in pouring water on the hands of Elijah, and the result? A double portion of the anointing.

When you are committed and faithful in the little God has committed into your hands then He can commit greater things to you. Your present assignment may just be a gateway to the major destiny God has for you. Discover it (if you have not) and do it faithfully.

8. Submission to your husband

As a woman, for you to break forth into your God-given destiny, the role of submission to your husband cannot be over-emphasized. Don't despise your husband; whatever you think God has told you to do, discuss with him, submit your visions under his own and you will see God move on your behalf. 

9. Exert yourself

Don't spare yourself. Don't put your career above your calling. Exert yourself and make yourself available to do the assignment of your calling according to God's requirement and stretch yourself to balance up in other areas as well.

Don't give career or domestic excuses to disobey God in your calling. Phil.4:13- You can do all things through Christ- your calling, your career and your family

In conclusion, God has a glorious future in mind for you, but He requires that you work towards this future. Study the word of God on a daily basis, commit your future to God in prayers, stabilize yourself in the Local Church, submit yourself to God-given authority figures in your life, embrace present assignments joyfully and do it faithfully, and it shall be well with you in Jesus' name.

GOD’S PATTERN FOR CORRECT PARENTING (MOTHERING)

GOD’S PATTERN FOR CORRECT PARENTING (MOTHERING)

TEXT: Judges 13.

This passage highlights the active participation of God with men in producing children according to His purpose.

Mothering/ parenting is a shared responsibility between God and man. You should understand this, and be faithful, because God Himself is faithful.

Successful mothering starts from that participatory understanding. God is the One that forms and separate babies from the womb- having plans for them before they came. Jer.1:5-“Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.”

This understanding gives you an advantage- seeing you and God at work to cause His purpose to manifest on the earth. People of this understanding enjoy peculiar involvement of God in their affairs over their children. There is no child that God gives to a family without a definite purpose attached.

It’s a pity today that most parents stumble on children. I emphasize that one can still have children that God did not give to one (like Ishmael) - because God did not speak anything concerning his destiny. When you have no idea of God’s purpose, you have no weapon in the day of battle (crises).

In this passage, God started with a purpose-demanding the commitment of the parents. Manoah’s wife confided in her husband on what she received.

Correct mothering can only be done in active cooperation with correct fathering- she discussed with her husband, what the angel told her.

Most women see the child as their own- considering her agony in the labour room; and at some times poison the child against the father. A woman does not have all it takes to raise a child. The child will lack many things- that only fatherhood can supply. There is a place of fathering that makes mothering show. When you fence them from that fathering influence, the gap will be there.

Notice that Manoah prayed that God should come and teach them how to raise the child- the child to be born. This is the prayer every mother ought to be praying before child bearing, not just going around the market in search of dresses that the baby will wear. God did not give you children to start raising them the way you know- your mother’s way or the way of the people around you.

Husband and wife are to team up to raise the children under God.

Something is wrong if the father is pulling up and the mother is pulling down. There must be a harmonization of principles, understanding etc- the two agreeing together in raising the children. They (Manoah and the wife) submitted their background fears (known and unknown) and limitations to what God has to say- seeking to be led in spite of what they knew. If you open your spirit to the Lord, He will lead you and show you what to do.

You must acknowledge and submit ownership of the child to the Lord. (Ps.127). The child belongs to God. He expects you to take custody of him while you consistently seek counsel from Him as the Owner. Many parents want to raise the child for themselves and not for the Lord. You must always seek the face of the Lord for what He desires for the child.

Remain Blessed.

THE EXCEPTIONAL WIFE IS THE RESPONSIBLE WIFE

THE EXCEPTIONAL WIFE IS THE RESPONSIBLE WIFE

Proverbs 31:10-31

Introduction

People expect you to have weakness and come short in some areas, which makes you human, but when you excel where you are expected to fail then you become exceptional. When you produce result where people understand you should have no result, you are rated exceptional.

When you take advantage of God’s power, wisdom and mercy in those areas where you have lack in your nature, personality and temperament, you become an exceptional individual.

You can be an exceptional wife when you refuse to complain about what normal people complain about, when you solve problems that others leave for others, when you assume responsibilities where others push it on another.

What are your present complaints, dislikes and things that put you off concerning your home, to be precise – your husband? Do you know you can do something about it? Let’s have 3 examples.

How do you feel when your husband holds you responsible for something you feel you both or even ‘he’ alone should bear the brunt?

Do you feel – he’s asking for too much from you?

Do you feel he’s shacking his responsibilities?

Do you feel he’s unfair?

The key is hold yourself responsible before anyone does, and they won’t need trying to assume responsibilities where it is not needed, you only face embarrassment and pain, in the setting where they tell you in words or action, you are not needed, but where you are needed (though someone’s desire may not want you) you have no need to be afraid or hold anything back.

Assume responsibilities over these things in your husband’s life and your marriage will appreciate.

1. His life, future, dreams and destiny. Take it as if “if he fails, then you fail”. It means you’ll do anything right and Godly to see him lifted, improve, increase, make it. (Ascertain these two issues).

- He has a dream, future and destiny – that he is aware of.

- That the origin of it is God.

- Proper church/kingdom life and connections that God can use to get him ready for a higher place in the world.

If these two points are not in place, help him to connect to where he’ll get to know – church, Pastor!

The couple will live a vain life if the head is merely existing – living to eat, have no cause they are committed to.

2. What are the things your husband complain about you?

What areas of your operations has he shown displeasure?

Assume responsibilities to get rid of such, guess what? It makes his own life smoother! 1Cor. 11:9.

(You may feel what about those things I have complained about? That will come later, after you have done  your part as a seed, your harvest includes that) – John 12:24.

3. What areas of lack or need – physically have you noticed in his life? e.g. makes a lot of promise and forget it, too tied in the night to do important things e.t.c.

- Do you have ability in that area?

If yes, use it for him, lavish it on him.

If no, can you develop yourself in that area, solely for the purpose of helping him to succeed? Start now.

May the Lord depend on you.

DIVINE ASSIGNMENTS FOR MOTHERING (2)

Beloved Daughter in Zion,

Greetings of love in Jesus’ name. Last week we started on this very crucial topic- DIVINE ASSIGNMENTS FOR MOTHERING and we expounded on one of the divine assignments- NUTURE. This week, we shall continue on the series by sharing another divine assignment for mothers;

(2) DESTINY MOULDING AND INTERCESSION

TEXT: 2Tim.1:5, Ez.22:30;13:5, Ps.106:23, Isa.59:16

Intercession is a way of enforcing the will of God and it is into this the Lord has called you as a mother.
Many times, God shows His children impending dangers; this is not to be seen as mere information; He actually wants you to pray in order to stop the impending danger and make things right (Gen.18:17-33). God had in many generations called (and is still calling) women aside to give them a fore knowledge of the destinies of their children (Gen.25:23, Luk.1:31-35). He does this so as to guide them and make them know their responsibility in raising those children according to His predetermined ways.

As a mother, you are a powerful tool of intercession in the hand of God. He has called you into this duty of intercession because He has something to accomplish through you, and you must be willing to rise up to this responsibility. There is no hopeless situation that cannot be turned around in the lives of your Children if only you can just intercede. Whether your children are sucklings, teenagers, adults or even married, your intercession can enforce the will of God in their lives.

Sometimes ago, Kenneth Copeland shared that when he was younger, before he married, he did not want to embrace the call of God on his life. He loved going to play in parties instead of embracing the will of God. He stressed further that when he went out to sing in those parties, his mother would go into his room and lay hold on his pillow and would start praying for him. At the instance of his mother’s prayer, something would just draw him home from the party. With desire to sleep, he would become repentant and sober as soon as he laid his head on the pillow and the next thing was prayers to God. Today, he is a vessel of God. This was the work of a praying mother.

Your prayers can make all the difference. Lots of mothers complain about their children over different issues, but very few go on their knees to enforce God’s plans from the spirit realm. Don’t use your mouth to kill and destroy every other good thing in the lives of your children (especially the wayward ones). Rather, use the same mouth to mould their future and destiny according to the will of God. Don’t just WISH they were something; pray them into God’s plans and God’s rest. (Isa.62:1-2)

Kenneth Hagin said he was the one that prayed the first lady his son would have married out of his life when he knew she was not the will of God for him. You can do the same. You can pray out bad friends, habits and acts out of the lives of your children. You can use your prayers to help them in their endeavours and in their marriage. Instead of moving around with gossips, look for a praying friend (or friends). As a parent, there is a stand you can take in the spirit, based on the revelation of God’s word that will open your children’s lives to various encounters of God. You are a moulder and an intercessor. Rise up now and start walking in it. It is your divine assignment.

It is well with you.

GIVE BACK THE CHILD TO GOD

Beloved, I welcome you to another edition of our newsletter, Zion Pillar. The topic of today is a component of our broad topic, Divine Assignment for motherring. Be blessed in Jesus' name

                       

Text: 1Sam.1:11, 24-28, Gen. 22: 1-13.

Beloved Daughter in Zion,

Greetings of love in Jesus’ name. We have established in this series that the child in your care is not yours but God’s. By this we meant that God has only put the child in your custody in order for you to nurture him/ her based on His plans and purpose. Sequel to this, we said that it is important that you constantly seek out God’s will and purpose for the child- this is a form of giving the child back to God.

Give the child back to God

Our texts show us two practical examples of people who gave back their children to God in different ways and circumstances though, but you need to know what God means in our dispensation when He says, “Give me back that child”.

By giving your child back to God, we do not mean that everyone should dump their children at their pastor’s house as soon as he/she is weaned, neither is God saying, “Go to that mountain and slay that child unto Me as a sacrifice”. NO! Instead God is saying, “acknowledge I am the Owner of that child and ONLY do what I command you concerning him/ her. Do not impose your personal ambitions over My will. Do not place the gift of the child over My relationship with you.”

Benefits of giving back your child to God

1. He adds to you in great measure (1sam.2:20-21)
2. He makes an everlasting covenant with you as a compensation for your obedience (Gen.22:15-18)
3. You have rest over the child because now the Owner is the One taking care him by Himself. Can you just imagine God taking care of your children? How sweet could this be.
4. If you can be proven genuine and sincere before God that you would hand back the child to God (like Hannah), the yoke of barrenness is sure going to be broken from your life. You will see from 1Sam.2:21 that Hannah had five children after Samuel. This is what celebrating God and not His gift can do to a man.

Dangers associated with holding back the child from God.

1. You and your descendants after you may be cut off from God’s programme in this life perpetually with no trace that you ever existed. (1Sam.2:27-30)
2. You may lose that child before your very eye. (1Sam.2:34; 4:11, Lev.10:1-2). It is a grievous thing to witness the death of your child. Please cooperate with God.
3. Your family may suffer pre-matured death or death at the verge of good thing happening to them (1Sam.2:31, 33).

This is a serious matter, isn’t it? Please desire God’s mandate for your child and commit all your life to its actualization. God will hold you responsible for what becomes of your child (children).

Point of caution

Do not take the place of God in the life of your child. Always acknowledge God as the rightful Owner of the child and do only what He asks you to do. Nothing should be trivialized in the affairs of your child; even to the name to be given him/ her, God is interested in it (Luk.1:13, 1Kings 13:2, Gen.17:19) let alone the school he should attend, the course he should study and places he should visit (Acts 17:26). Seek out every detail about the child from God (Judges 13:8) He will tell you if you ask Him (Jer.33:3).

It is your responsibility to ensure that the child marries right (Gen.24:1-8). Learn from Abraham, how he sought to carry out God’s mandate over Isaac to the utmost, even in his (Abraham) old age. This is not to mean that you should unduly compel your child to marry your friend’s child or from your home town without God’s leading. Get the details from God.

Conclusion

Giving your child back to God is not a one-time event or lifestyle. You are to give the child back to God on a daily basis. To do this, you must be sound in your communion with the Holy Spirit, be an intercessor and be dead to your SELF. I need to ask you at this juncture if you have discovered God’s purpose for your child. What and who are you patterning the child after? When purpose is unknown, abuse is inevitable. Do not enter the danger of not knowing the purpose of God for your child. It is not too late to ask HIM.

May the Lord depend on you and find you faithful.

UNDERSTAND GOD’S PURPOSE FOR YOUR CONCEPTION

Text: Gal.4:4

Beloved Daughter in Zion,

Greetings of love in Jesus’ name. Today, we shall be concluding on this series and I want to thank the Lord for the ways He has brought a new light into your life most especially in the discharge of your duties as a mother. Do not let this flavour be quenched, rather, ignite it and make heaven smile and rejoice over you.

So far we have treated four of these divine assignments as a mother, which are: Nurturer, Intercessor, The use of motherhood as a partnering tool with the Holy Ghost and Giving back the child to God. Let us look at the last assignment heaven has placed on you as a mother as pertained in this series; “Understanding God’s purpose for your conception”

As you have learnt, it is your responsibility to know the intent of God for your child, much more, for your conception. Do not just have children because you feel like having them; instead let God stir your heart to have them. There is an allocation of time to the birth of every destiny child. It must not be late, and must not be before time. It must be according to the time of life (Gen.18:10). I tell you this, if your cordiality with God is worthwhile, you will know when to think of giving birth to a child (Remember I told you that this cordiality thing is what you grow into; it is not immediate. All that is required is your progressive commitment).

Look at Zechariah and Elizabeth. By divine agenda, John the Baptist was supposed to be the fruit of their marriage, but according to the time of life. Barrenness is not with evil intentions, particularly when God is responsible (Jas.1:17). It may just be that the time is not ripe for child bearing according to divine calendar. Every one of us has a prophecy to fulfill but the timing is with God. Seek to know when. Prophecy had gone ahead of John the Baptist- Mal.4:5, Isa.40:3, John 1:23- and the place of time of fulfillment was vital (Gal.4:4). Do not base your conception on emotional grounds but on divine purpose.

Furthermore, it is very essential you know that the sex of your child is a product of the purpose of God. I am surprised when I see couples part ways because the child born was a girl when the father actually wanted a male child. Some even go to the point of telling the child she is not wanted. It is not funny to know that this has pervaded Christiandom. It is ridiculous, ain’t? It is a sin to God because by so doing, you are telling Him He knows not what He is doing. Why did Mary the mother of Jesus have to be a female gender? Why was Esther a female? They were females because of the purpose they were to accomplish in the calendar of God. Our father in the Lord- Rev. Olusola Areogun, for example could not have been female, because he could not have been able to accomplish all that the Lord is accomplishing in and through him. He must have a male body in order for God’s purpose for him to be accomplished. The same applies to all of God’s creatures and it will do us good to align with it.

As a responsible mother in Christ, you are supposed to know the gender of your child before you go for ultrasound (Gen.25:23). But how many of us are really waiting on God before conception? There is nothing the Lord does without a purpose behind it. Take purpose out of God’s works, then what you have is blind experimentation. God does His things inline with His plans before the foundations of the world were laid. Just like a football coach that makes substitutions at the right time, God sends us into this world just at the nick of time. I implore you dearly beloved, to embrace this responsibility and disallow the devil from bringing seed of discord into your home over gender issues at conception.

Conclusion

You are relevant in the agenda of God for this dispensation. You could not have come into the world during the times of Esther, Ruth, Mary etc. This is your time, and you must maximize it. Do not trivialize the happens in your life and in your marriage, more importantly in the lives of your kids. Seek to know the plans of God at all times and it shall be well with you. The book of record will someday be opened of you, what is going to be read out of it before the throne of God? You have influence over it now that you still have life. Make the best out of motherhood. The time is now to partner with the Holy Spirit to bring purpose alive. I pray for you from my heart that may the Lord make you a model in this generation and may the name of you never go into extinction in this life as you embrace your God-given assignments as a mother.

May the Lord depend on you.